25 Apr The “other side” of you
We were recently challenged to ask people in our life…those we live with, work with, and do life with, this question…”What is it like to be on the other side of me?”
In other words…what’s it like to come home to me? What’s it like to be in a disagreement with me? What is it like to parent with me? What’s it like to go through trials with me? What’s it like living on the other side of me? What’s it like waking up to me? What’s it like doing a project with me? What’s it like being in a meeting with me? What’s it like to work under my leadership? What is it like to be my boss?
Kind of a scary question, huh?
There was one rule we had to adhere to…we could not respond in anyway to the answer…all we could do is listen and thank them for answering. Our tendency would be to explain why we act a certain way, or defend ourself…but this must be a safe conversation for the person we are asking. They have to know the answer will not lead to an argument or uncomfortable conversation. Our pastor told us we could expect to be encouraged, surprised, and perhaps even hurt by the answers we heard from people.
So my question to you is…would you take this challenge? Are you willing to ask those in your life this question? Are you willing to listen and not respond, but allow the Holy Spirit to use the answers to begin to do a work in you?
Relationships are the most important part of our life. Our relationship with God first and foremost, our relationship with our spouse, family, friends, and coworkers, and then our relationship with the world.
How are we being received by people? Are we kind? Are we gentle? Are we loving? Are we gracious? Are we forgiving? Are we patient? Or…Are we moody? Are we easily irritated? Are we angry? Are we impatient? Are we unhappy? Are we cruel? Are we unforgiving? Are we grudge holders?
Becoming aware of how we are received by others, and changing, can make a huge impact on not only our life, our marriage, our friendships and work relationships…but it can totally transform how we interact with the lost.
We are on this earth because God still has work for us to do for His Kingdom. He has people He wants us to influence and love. Coming to a place of realizing what it’s like to be on the “other side” of me, can be the catalyst for change in your life.
Are you ready? Take a deep breath, prepare for the answers to come, and GO!
“What is it like to be on the other side of me?”
We would love to hear back from you if you choose to take the challenge! Let us know how it goes and how God used it in your life!